THE NIGHT WALKER FOTO MONTAGE

If you go ahead and click on the title above and type in nightwalker you will see a montage (collage) of foto's taken when I originally filmed Night Walker in 2004 (run your mouse over the foto to enlarge it!).

Or just paste this link into your browser window and hit return!
http://www.deviousgelatin.com/montager/

Onya...

FOTO OF THE WEEK!

Regent University, Virginia Beach, originally uploaded by eye2eye.

Regent University, Virginia Beach
This gem was taken by eye2eye (another flickrite with a great eye).
Pure magic!

YOU ARE AND WILL ALWAYS BE

You Are and Will Always Be
(An Ode to Rio)

Like energy, unharnessed
Like a black diamond, unfound
Like rare music, unheard
Like glamour, unaccompanied
Like the most beautiful flower, not yet picked
You are and will always be...

Like a woman, unadulterated
Like an army, unarmed
Like a child, unassuming
Like a chance, unawares
Like some kind of pleasure, not yet felt
You are and will always be...

Like a needed experience, unavoidable
Like treasure, unseen
Like a love, unbalanced
Like some knowledge, unbeknown
Like a friend, not yet gone
You are and will always be...

Like life, unbelievable
Like potential, unbounded
Like a powerful horse, unbridled
Like a self, unburdened
Like a necessity, not yet called for
You are and will always be...

Like a carnival, in my mind.
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Poetry written by: Simon Dean Hilton (2005)

WHEN YOU LOOK AT ME!

(An Ode To The Man In The Park)

When you look at me
you see what you don't want to see
what you can't be, mustn't be
What is is that you try to be?
Is it what you really want to be?
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When you look at me
you see what is not good in me
but why do you judge the likes of me
if you can't yet really see?
I am and will always be
a part of thee...
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When you look at me
You can't but help realise, the pain in me
a reflection of yourself, which will never be.
Yet, without a doubt, the compassion comes out in thee
and you feel yourself beginning to understand me.
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When you look at me
you wonder if I'll ever be
able to return to thee
and live amongst the so called wealthy,
that causes you to judge me
and live a life so needy.
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When you look at me
what is it that you really see?
One that is more needy and separate from thee,
or one that has the right to be?
Regardless of my necessity
when you look at me, wake up and see what I see...
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Poetry written by: Simon Dean Hilton (cc 2005)

WHY DO SO MANY JAP/FOREIGN RELATIONSHIPS FAIL??

COMMON PROBLEMS AND MISCONCEPTIONS IN JAPANESE-WESTERN RELATIONSHIPS

Japanese version here (日本語版)



Written by Doug Berger, M.D., Ph.D.

(Numbers on the Japanese side correspond to those on the Western side)

Latent Expectations From Culture Of Origin:

JAPANESE SIDE:

1.) "I expect my partner and I to depend on each other as Japanese do."

2.) "I expect we will have division of labor as in a Japanese family."

WESTERN SIDE:

1.) "I expect my partner to be as individual as Westerners are."


2.) "I expect we will be equals in family and career roles."



Misconceptions:

JAPANESE SIDE:

1.) "Relationships with foreigners will give me freedom."

2.) "My partner is not a typical Westerner."

WESTERN SIDE:

1.) "Japanese are obedient."

2.) "My partner is Westernized."




Common Complaints:

JAPANESE SIDE:

1.) "My partner can't sense how I feel."

2.) "My partner pushes too hard to get me to 'understand'."

3.) "My partner ignores my needs."

WESTERN SIDE:

1.) "My partner doesn't share their feelings."

2.) "My partner gets angry or silent without expressing the reasons."

3.) "My partner expects me to do too much for them."



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Return to PSYCHOTHERAPY IN JAPAN page.


日本語のページへ戻る。



日本人‐欧米人関係における 主な誤解と問題

English version here (英語版)



作成者：　バーガー　ダグラス　精神科医・医学博士



(日本人側の番号は欧米人側の番号に相当する。）


母国から由来する潜在的期待：

日本人側： 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

１。）「日本人同志のように頼り合うはずです。」　　　　　　　　　　　

２。）「日本人家庭のように男女分業になるはずです。」

欧米人側：

１。）「相手は欧米人のように自立するはずです。」

２。）「家庭やキャリアーの面では平等になるはずです。」　　　　　　　　　



誤解：

日本人側： 　

１。）「外国人と関係する方が自由。」　　　　　　　　　

２。）「相手は典型的な西洋人じゃない。」

欧米人側：

１。）「日本人は素直です。」

２。）「相手は西洋化した。」


その他の訴え：

日本人側：


１。）「相手は私の心を読み取れない。」　　　　　　　　

２。）「相手は私をむりやりに理解させよう とする。」　　

３。）「相手は私の欲求に構ってくれない。」


欧米人側：


１。）「相手は心情を話してくれない。」


２。）「相手は理由を言わないで、怒りだしたり、黙り込んだりする。」


３。）「相手に無理に要求される。」

日本語のページへ戻る。

NEED SOME SPEED?? (SAFARI SLOWING DOWN!?)

HOW TO SPEED UP SAFARI (MAC WEB BROWSER)

by Simon Hilton

1. First, empty your browsers cache

2. Then, open VIREX (Apples third party virus software available for download if u have a MAC membership $99/ year) do an eUpdate first for new viruses and then scan & clean your HD (this takes quite a while with VIREX!)

3. If VIREX finds and cleans something then think about also getting INTERNET CLEANUP for MAC as it will check the HD for SPYWARE & ADWARE which although not technically viruses definitely slow down your computer, measureably!!

4. If none of this works your computer is CLEAN & SAFE so try these last methods to really SPEED UP SAFARI!

5. Download the FREE "SAFARI SPEED" software which will solve the page delay
(built in to Safari!) and the saving of icons (which slows down Safari over time).

*Go to safari prefences/ security/ show cookies & REMOVE all these little buggers to boost performance and speed up safari.

Last but not least, if u still have problems do this;

5. SAVE your BOOKMARKS to another browser (Firefox etc... or desktop) and RESET SAFARI from the menu. RESTART computer and see the difference!

*NOTE: if you reset safari you will lose your settings so write them down on paper so that you can input them again once SAFARI has been IMPROVED!
**DISCLAIMER: the author accepts no responsibility for anything that happens to your computer or mental health by following these TIPS (& thats all they are!).

A RARE SKIN DISEASE!!

A RARE SKIN DISEASE!!
Originally uploaded by MRA_PAUL.

Well, actually it's really just make-up and believe me i need it!

MRA UPDATE

Well, first of all I have to apologize for the MRA UPDATE delays as I have been run off my feet with all sorts of time consuming activities that have not allowed me the time to constantly update.
Anyway, this is the next MRA UPDATE which follows on from the office and gun room scenes from the previous UPDATE.

After the GUN ROOM scene was completed we needed to find a location for the large office scene where PAUL works for his girlfriend's father's company (Software) and is getting extremely bored and restless with his current life! While his colleagues are busying themselves with mundane work, Paul decides to look for another job (secretly) in a job advertisement magazine. While looking he sees something that really strikes him as odd but after second thoughts, rather interesting! He spots an add for a MONSTER HUNTER! Taking out a pen quietly, he circles the add for future reference and daydreams about the possibilities of being a hero in a bizarre world!

Note: A large office space proved more difficult to find in Tokyo than at first expected but we were lucky as a student of mine (Hajime) was kind enough to provide his office for the day, which was more than suitable for the film. From all the crew on MRA thank you very much Hajime and the team at your company.

SOME OF THE MRA CREW

FROM LEFT (BACK TO FRONT): SHIBAYAMA SAN (MR. MORIMOTO), SAIZU (DOCUMENTARY DIRECTOR), HAJIME (LOCATION PROVIDER & EXTRA), ROB (FIRST CAMERAMAN), JR (DIRECTOR) AND YUMIKO (MAKE-UP ARTIST), (MAY 2005).

MUTUAL RESPECT!

28 May 2005

"Mr. Simon Hilton"

The photographer in the picture shown below is a friend of mine, Simon Hilton from Australia. About five years ago he came to Tokyo, so his Japanese is terrific. He told me a amazing story about how he learned Japanese at the University in Australia. That is how popular Japanese is in Australia. He is very busy in Tokyo with photography, short movie acting/ writing/ producing/ directing/ and teaching English for his own private company. In fact he is one of my English teachers.

On May 17th he came to my studio to photograph and interview me for a article about my work. I'm not sure what he will use the article for maybe magazine, web site or even something else. Regardless of the use I am looking forward to it. When it is done I hope to be able to show you.


Simon and me

28 May 2005